The Icy Tower of Babel
This post will be completely different than any post I’ve written previously. Because it isn’t about grief; it’s about something...
Read moreGlue for the Heartstrings
Pain is often divisive. In our culture, it commonly breeds discord, resentment, and at times, even hatred and violence. Our worldly...
Read moreI Heard the Bells
One of the most common, and detrimental, misconceptions about loss is that grief is something we “get through.” As we discussed last...
Read moreSilent Night
As I sip coffee and stare out into the night, I’m struck by the concept of continuity. The moonlight bathes the bare branches, forming a...
Read moreThe December Crescendo
This has always been my favorite time of year, this magical valley between Thanksgiving and Christmas. As the air gets colder, my soul seems to...
Read more3 Reasons to be Grateful in Grief
To be clear: this is not a spin on the nauseating cliche that pain is some kind of privilege, or the hackneyed notion that the greater agony you...
Read moreA Benevolent Chaos
“I sought a personal entropy, hedged my bets that the world would break and remake me along with itself. I wanted to break, you see. And...
Read moreThe Empty Theater
“Life is more painful now than ever before. No dawn is innocent.” I wrote those words in the original manuscript of Even if...
Read moreConfessions of a Widower
When you open my book in February, you’ll find it has four parts. Part One is called The Hand and the Heart, Part Two is The Bend in...
Read moreWhen Grief Causes Guilt
18 months ago, I didn’t think my friends wanted me to live anymore. Why? Let’s discuss it. Guilt is one of the most commonly...
Read moreThe Invisible Colors of Grief
“Kailen was, and is, all the words I don’t know, all the colors I cannot see.” That sentence, taken from one of my journal...
Read moreThe Long Road Home
“I was twenty-six the first time I died. I stepped beyond the veil to stand at the edge of it all, looked out over the vast wasteland...
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