The Lazarus Within
There exists within you a vast power. It often goes unnoticed, hiding in plain sight. In times of great pain, it’s especially stealthy...
Read moreMirrors and Mirages
Grief leaves us stranded in a tunnel. In fact, almost every kind of pain does. It beats us up and leaves us for dead. Having all experienced some...
Read moreImmutable Joy
For years, I thought I understood joy. I saw it as universal, an arbitrary gift given to each person in equal measure. I saw it as a passive...
Read moreThe Icy Tower of Babel
This post will be completely different than any post I’ve written previously. Because it isn’t about grief; it’s about something...
Read moreGlue for the Heartstrings
Pain is often divisive. In our culture, it commonly breeds discord, resentment, and at times, even hatred and violence. Our worldly...
Read moreI Heard the Bells
One of the most common, and detrimental, misconceptions about loss is that grief is something we “get through.” As we discussed last...
Read moreSilent Night
As I sip coffee and stare out into the night, I’m struck by the concept of continuity. The moonlight bathes the bare branches, forming a...
Read moreThe December Crescendo
This has always been my favorite time of year, this magical valley between Thanksgiving and Christmas. As the air gets colder, my soul seems to...
Read more3 Reasons to be Grateful in Grief
To be clear: this is not a spin on the nauseating cliche that pain is some kind of privilege, or the hackneyed notion that the greater agony you...
Read moreA Benevolent Chaos
“I sought a personal entropy, hedged my bets that the world would break and remake me along with itself. I wanted to break, you see. And...
Read moreThe Empty Theater
“Life is more painful now than ever before. No dawn is innocent.” I wrote those words in the original manuscript of Even if...
Read moreConfessions of a Widower
When you open my book in February, you’ll find it has four parts. Part One is called The Hand and the Heart, Part Two is The Bend in...
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